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Growing old grey-cefully.

Posted in Aging, and Women's issues

Funny_Pictures_512I have decided do stop dyeing my hair. Not a popular decision if my (informal) friends and family poll is anything to go by. But I remain steadfast because I have my reasons:
– it costs over half of one month’s salary across a year
– my hair looks good for three weeks then starts to resemble raffia
– the dye process takes over two hours to effect, with another 45mins for the cut: that much time in a salon makes me antsy
– no-one is fooled as to my age.

The older I get the more low maintenance I become. My make-up routine consists of a tinted moisturiser, eyebrow pencil, mascara and a slick of lipstick. Takes all of eight minutes on a slow day. If I am pushing the boat out – i.e. adding eyeliner, I need15 minutes, tops. Throw in a shower – and the whole process from naked to “thank god she has her clothes back on” takes a round half hour.

Then there’s the other thing – my deep fear of being broke when I am old(er). I haven’t contributed to a pension since I was 45, I earn a modest income and have done so for years. And, frugal as I am, I’ve been stretching the rand to snapping point. (Frankly – the tanking of the Rand against pretty much every currency in the world is the only thing keeping me solvent right now. Not that that is anything to celebrate.)

It has also occurred to me that sitting around in a hairdresser once a month, with poisonous dye soaking into my skull, while I inhale the fumes from Brazilian blowouts, can’t be a good thing.

So – it’s time.

My hairdresser is not a fan of my plan: “You are not going to have the sparkling silver of your mother”, she informed me. “More strawberry grey and a bit patchy”. She frowned: “It will make you look older.”

I like Pascaline: she has always been honest with me. But I don’t agree – right now I look exactly my age, but with copper raffia hair. So I am willing to give it a shot. I will accessorise with hip clothes.

IMG_3735I grabbed the ring over the weekend and instructed the hairdresser to cut as much of the colour out as she could – without giving me a crew cut. Here’s the result. It’s going to take a few months to get all of the colour out and for the hair to settle; but I think it’s ok. “You look foxy”, said the guy who usually dyes my hair. “It’s silver-ish.”

A silverish fox – I’ll take that.

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18 Comments

  1. Totally LOVE the new do! And I agree with the colorist. You do look foxy. Well done. 😉

    December 27, 2015
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  2. Am I the only person to find gray hair sexy? Because I really do. And why should we hide it? Like you so aptly said it, oftentimes we’re not even fooling anyone. I say embrace the ‘new’ hair and, if you dislike it, you can always go back to dyeing it, right?

    Having said this… I’ve been craving a new haircut, and I’ve been wanting to bleach my hair so I can dye it funky colours. Is it an intrinsically feminine thing to want change? My other half is happy leaving his (gorgeous) hair as is, hip length and undyed. I’d have done all sorts of nasty things to it already out of sheer boredom…

    December 15, 2015
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    • sofagirl
      sofagirl

      Lenor – I was thinking of bleaching mine and dying it silver grey – but the process sounded long and hideous – so god speed you!

      December 15, 2015
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  3. I spotted my first grey hairs aged 32 in the changing rooms of M&S Oxford Street/Baker Street. My dad had also started to go grey early. I’ve never dyed, and I’m not planning to. I’ve gone a silvery blonde, which actually looks quite nice on my head of curls, I think. Might I look younger if I coloured it? Maybe. But… I can’t figure out WHY I would want to. And certainly not at that price. Also worried about what I’m going to live on when I get to pension age…

    December 15, 2015
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    • sofagirl
      sofagirl

      MLOTC: You are welcome to join us in our “Second Best Marigold Hotel” – site to be decided on closer to the time. We can pool our resources and have a fine old time.

      January 4, 2016
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  4. silvia
    silvia

    Hello gorgeous silverish foxy lady!!! Smart decision, stick to it. And btw to me you ‘d look beautiful even wearing a clown wig

    December 15, 2015
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    • sofagirl
      sofagirl

      The kids rolled around on the floor hearing that one. But thanks for the compliment. xxxx

      January 4, 2016
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  5. Good for you! And a little envious actually! I’m not even 40 and I need that bottle of dye monthly! I look forward to giving it up one day! Happy grey-hair days!

    December 15, 2015
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    • sofagirl
      sofagirl

      Thanks AFAW – I have been dyeing for way longer than that … !

      January 4, 2016
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  6. Glenis
    Glenis

    Sue Lovey, believe me, the grey colour of your hair will be lovely. Through generations the women in my family “greyed” most attractively. As Pope Pius once said a long time ago (in the 50s) when one of his assistants would not let a woman in the crowd approach him because her hair was too short. “A woman is not judged by the length of her hair” (Or in your case the colour).

    December 15, 2015
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  7. I love the cut! And you have made the right decision. Cost and time were the reasons I gave up on dying my hair several years ago, and I haven’t regretted it at all.

    December 15, 2015
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    • sofagirl
      sofagirl

      Thanks for the vote of confidence Fiona – can’t wait until the red grows out and I can see what it really looks like!

      January 4, 2016
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  8. My stylist is all over me letting the grey come in. I am doing it for exactly the same reasons as you. Mostly because I’m lazy and it’s a pain in the ass to keep doing it. Right now it looks like crap as it is half and half.

    December 15, 2015
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    • sofagirl
      sofagirl

      Me too – we have to keep on keeping on….

      January 4, 2016
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  9. Bettina
    Bettina

    Love it! Haven’t colored my hair in exactly two years and can’t wait to get even grayer. A good cut is a must and the youthful attitude you have.

    December 15, 2015
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  10. Isabel Freeman
    Isabel Freeman

    Go for it! With your hair so short that color will be gone soon and you’ll have a lovely silver crown and money for things that are more fun than sitting in a salon.

    I was a blonde as a child and became a brunette as I got older which I was not happy about. From time to time I’d get it streaked to add some blonde and hide the gray that was coming in. I’ve never enjoyed going to the salon and after a while I just stopped. The gray turned to silver and now I have gotten back to having the light colored hair that I was meant to have. I get compliments on it frequently. i wear it shoulder length and get it trimmed every 6 months at an inexpensive salon so it hardly costs anything to maintain.

    December 15, 2015
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  11. I tried a few years ago but was not patient enough to go through with the “in-between” and I fell again for the coloring. I totally agree with you and I’m thinking to try to go grey again soon!

    December 15, 2015
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  12. Good for you….I’ve been toying around with the same thought. My hair is the same length so the dye does not last that long once I get it cut again.

    December 15, 2015
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