If I may be blunt, being an emotional and spiritual adult means taking care of your own shit. If we are ever to be psycho-spiritually independent and cultivate healthy soil for our own souls, we must stop processing our emotional waste through other people. We must stop filtering our blame, anger, resentment, jealousy and depression through our parents, ex-spouses, siblings, bosses, children and anyone else we choose to project our shortcomings onto. Of course, this requires taking 100% responsibility for our current life condition, a completely independent approach that leaves us with no other option than to set up an internal emotional waste management system.
Dr. Habib Sadeghi