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(5) Things we love … #19

Posted in Life & Love, Relationships, and Things We Love

Fool_on_the_hill_stock_tent_1024x10241. Intent: I want one of these for the garden in McG. Why? It looks good so I can leave it in place all summer. The Nans will love it and spend more time in the garden. It has a solar panel that will allow them to recharge their phones and iPad. And did I mention that the kids would be spending more time in the garden? Available at Big Bang Tents. Now all I need is someone to bring me one from England.

A cup of Smores
A cup of Smores

2. Guilt Free Desserts, the cause celebre of the foodie world at the moment. Horrible phrase. Why should anyone feel guilty about having dessert? I never do. Especially if there is chocolate or apple pie involved. Even better if it is a quick/easy make. Foodie Site Number 2 Pencil offers a solution to after supper sweet cravings: most of these desserts can be made in a mug. Sure to be a late-nite hit at universities around the world. And sofacasa.
Mug-Blueberry-Coffee-Cake-681x10243. “Why, why, why, why, why?”. The Five Whys is a technique used to explore the cause-and-effect relationships underlying a particular problem. It was developed by Sakichi Toyodo who observed: “by repeating why five times, the nature of the problem as well as its solution becomes clear.” Why five? While using the 5 Whys to help put automotive giant Toyota back on track, Toyodo recorded that 5 was the number of repetitions typically needed to resolve a problem.

Here’s how it works:
Step 1: Write down the problem: for e.g. –  My boyfriend is angry with me.
Why 1: I was late for dinner
Why 2: I left work at the last minute
Why 3: I have so much to do I couldn’t get it finished during a regular work day
Why 4: I take on work that is not mine
Why 5: I don’t know how to say no
Ok – so you now know why he is angry and what the root cause is. But what makes you behave that way? If you want to go deeper, add in another couple of whys.
Why 6: If I say no people won’t like me.
Why 7: That’s what happened with my mother.
If you don’t get there, you’re resisting. Start again.

Why Therapy: quick, easy, no tissues required.
jean michel basquiat boy-and-dog-in-a-johnnypump4. Re-discovered: Life Doesn’t Frighten Me At All. I found this book in the spare room as I was prepping it for my parents’ arrival on Saturday. Words by Maya Angelou, images by Jean-Michel Basquiat (one day I will have a painting): a riveting combination. Listen to Angelou read the book here.


5. RIP: Lauren Bacall, Bogie’s great love and the woman who kicked Sinatra to the kerb. On the myth of having it all:
“I put my career in second place throughout both my marriages and it suffered. I don’t regret it. You make choices. If you want a good marriage, you must pay attention to that. If you want to be independent, go ahead. You can’t have it all.”

(All images found in the public domain.Tent copyright with Big Bang Tents.)

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  1. Those “microwave mug recipes” may just be the most brilliant way to add chocolate to one’s diet ever! I’m definitely trying one or two or oh shoot, who am I kidding…ALL of them!

    August 19, 2014
  2. I’m sure sofabrother will have space for numero uno and yes, the 5 whys is genius

    August 16, 2014
  3. love the 5 whyś idea for diving into a problem. Might give that a whirl

    August 16, 2014

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