“A diamond is forever” is stamped in our collective consciousness as much as Nike’s “Just do it” or Mastercard’s “Priceless”. They have become part of our language and, in the case of diamonds, it has come to signify proof that a couple’s love is forever – in the face of a 50% divorce rate in most Western countries. DeBeers’ advertising agency tapped into our need to prove and proclaim there is the “One” out there, and this soul mate will relinquish a couple of paychecks to put a stone on our finger that was probably mined under unsafe conditions, half way around our love obsessed world.
Don’t get me wrong. I am very big on love, with both capital and minuscule L. I drop the word love in conversation more than the average person; love for people, friends, animals, objects and places, and it’s never a euphemism. I am that scary person who loves loving, who doesn’t mind a broken heart if the memories will keep me warm at night; who is not afraid of dropping the L word at the early stages of a relationship. After all, aren’t there all different gradations of love?
The friends I loved as a child are all still in my life. The phone numbers of all the men I have been in love with are in my i-Phone, and I am still in touch with every single one of them, regardless of how bitter the ending was. Hurt doesn’t matter much to me if the love that came before was genuine. Loving makes me happy. It makes me feel complete and full and rich and purposeful.
I don’t often post videos because I feel our days are busy enough without more words and images being piled on. But I was touched by this five-minute animation of part of an interview that John Lennon and Yoko Ono gave at the end of the 1960s. The subject is Love.
I don’t know if there is a soul mate for everyone out there. But there are definitely people out there deserving of our love. And, sometimes, from little love, big Love ensues.
- “When I was singing All you need is love, I was talking about something I hadn’t experienced yet. Love for people had come in gusts [..]. You sing about it first, you write about it first and find out after what you were talking about.” Like everything else, love takes practice.
- “If you are with someone who is overpowering you, or you overpower them, it’s boring. [You need to be] with someone with a ticking mind”.
Love (and diamonds) might or might not be forever. In the end, nothing is. It certainly wasn’t for John and Yoko. Being surrounded by ticking minds – that is priceless.