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A date with my Dad.

Posted in Aging, Life & Love, and Relationships

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The Ward Warrior – my dad Roy.

This morning I had a coffee date with my dad. I wore a cool blue and white dress and put on some lipstick. He wore a pair of chino shorts and a pale blue T-shirt.  We walked to the coffee shop, greeted the hostess and talked about the weather. Sat down at a table and perused the menu – debating the merits of the various offerings.

Thandi took our order – asking my dad first what he would like – and he chose pancakes with cinnamon and sugar, and a black Americano, “extra hot, no milk, please”. I picked the same snack – but with a cup of tea.

We sat and chatted about this and that. Touched on family issues, the frightening events of last night*, how we thought the week was going to go: imaging timings and outcomes. I saw people at other tables glancing our way, commenting to each other – and smiled merrily at them all.

When we were finished, my dad picked up his shopping bag – and we headed off. We ambled back ‘home’, touching base with new pals we have made over the past ten days. He ignored the elevator and took the stairs.

Just a regular dad and daughter: out for a stroll. Except that my dad had a catheter in his shopping bag, a pipe down the front of his trousers and big white bandages on his head. And our meander was down a hospital corridor.

But we didn’t care. 10 days ago this felt like an impossible ask of the universe. Today it felt like a wonderful day out.

(*Treatment protocols that had gone awry – a incoherent phone call pulling my mom and me out of our beds at 3.00am, a dash to my frightened dad, the solution and settling. And back to bed by 4.30am. Image copyright campari&sofa)

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11 Comments

  1. Wishing him well. He looks great. Thanks for sharing that precious time with us.

    February 4, 2014
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  2. silvia
    silvia

    Adorable, maybe one of the most important dates of your life.
    And great writing skills. Thanks sweety for sharing this moment of yours.

    January 22, 2014
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  3. He looks good! And he’s certainly not the only one toting bags. My husband is currently wearing a wound vac in a should bag that looks like an old Star Trek tricorder. Healing wishes to your father.

    January 22, 2014
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  4. He’s quite handsome – even with the bandage.

    January 21, 2014
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  5. What a blessing it is to be able to spend some time doing the ordinary stuff with your dad. These times are so precious and I wish and pray that you have many more of them. Your dad looks great ~ he obviously has great strength of character and bucket loads of grit ~ which will all aid him in his struggle to get well again.

    January 21, 2014
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  6. So pleased to hear he is doing so well (considering all that’s happened) and looking really good! Love that his t-shirt matches his ‘bag’ – bet your mum had a hand in that! Hope he goes from strength to strength. Bet having you near has helped.

    January 21, 2014
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  7. Wish you both lots of love and luck. My dad was sick recently, thankfully he is making a full recovery, but it’s hard to be so far away from him at the moment.
    Jane x

    January 21, 2014
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  8. Small steps that make all the difference.

    Thinking of you all…onwards and upwards 🙂 xxx

    January 21, 2014
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  9. So wonderful – good for you guys. Thinking of you all from afar xx

    January 21, 2014
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  10. Carla
    Carla

    Well that had me reaching for the tissues…
    xxx

    January 21, 2014
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  11. Nici Carr
    Nici Carr

    It is so good to see Roy up and about and being able to go for coffee with you – albeit the hospital coffee shop he is looking and doing so well all things considered. Sending you all a big hug you are all in my prayers xxxxx

    January 21, 2014
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