When sofagirl suggested we compile our own lists of truths we have learnt over the years, I was a bit stumped. Of course I knew I had learnt many lessons, mostly the hard way, but I found I had a difficult time distilling what I thought was of essence.
In the end, the list was longer than just ten items and I realized that some of them were closely linked to my character and to difficulties, big and small, I had to overcome – in short, what I know is true is also the core of who I have become. It’s been an interesting journey, full of peaks and valleys, and I am hoping for a lot more peaks to come.
- When angry, pause between 30 seconds and a week before speaking. Perspectives shift and change quicker than we think
- Learn to let go: of situations, objects and, above all, relationships that don’t serve who you are any longer
- Love with abandon, passion and generosity but never lose sight of who you are
- Jobs, partners, children or money don’t make us whole – integrity and belief in ourselves do
- Invest in good shoes: not only will they add to your allure but they will also save you from a myriad of foot problems down the line
- It’s ok to delegate sometimes. Trying to always be in control gets tiring and leaves no room for surprises
- A true girlfriend will save your life many times over – water that plant often and lovingly
- Speak up, even when inconvenient or scary. You will always feel at peace with yourself afterwards
- If your gut tells you something, it’s usually wise to listen
- Curiosity is the single best way to greet each day