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Right now, this much I know is true. Part 1

Posted in About Us, Life & Love, and Relationships


In honour of International Women’s Day last Friday –  camparigirl and I thought we would take stock of what we know to be true in this world that is tumbling and falling into chaos. Yet still throws up beauty in so many different ways.

Our ‘knows’ might change as we get older. And, perhaps when we are the age our mothers are now – we will rewrite these lists with a wry chuckle. Or not – these are all lessons learned the hard way – over five decades. They’ve become part of our respective DNA .. and shape the way we are in the world without us even noticing.

Do you have something you’d like to add? We would love to hear your “right now’s” – so please drop them in the comments section or send us and email and we will collate them into another post next week.

Here are my Top Ten “right now – this much I know is true”.  I can’t wait to read Claudia’s:

1. Money, Time and Sleep can solve many things.
2. Buy the best Insurance and Health Care you can afford – you will need it one day.
3. Honesty is the best policy – but kindness trumps everything.
4. Integrity is key to your self-worth and peace of mind.  And Integrity means doing the right thing even when no one is watching.
5. You get what you pay for: especially with hotels, air travel, clothes and cars.
6. Small carelessesnesses give birth to giant fuck ups. Nothing starts as a colossal mess. It gets there through a series of entitlements, allowances, looking aways, half truths and fumbles. Call it when you first see it.
7. If something starts in a lie it will end badly – the stain will always be there. As Jimmy Goldsmith famously said: “When a man marries his mistress, he creates a job opportunity.” That sentiment is true in many areas of life. Including work and politics.
8. Shame is a hideous emotion that corrodes our souls. If you feel you’ve done someone or something wrong – fix it before it eats you alive.
9. Sincere Apology is powerful and turns tides.
10. You have to give someone permission to ruin your life. If that’s happening – walk away. They won’t.

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  1. Sofagirl,
    I happened to read Camparigirl’s list first, and it was interesting as yours seems very practical, and hers seemed more philosophical. I wonder if this is an indication of how you work as a team. However you do it, keep up the great posts. You two have some of the smartest, most interesting posts out there!
    Greekgirl 🙂

    March 15, 2013
    • I hadn’t thought of it but it’s a good reading. Sue tends to bring me back down to earth when I get too pie in the sky

      March 15, 2013
    • Hey Greekgirl … I think Claudia still gets starry eyed – whereas I am always keeping an eye on the weather. Our approach to love is probably the area where we differ the most. If you had to ask each of us what is more important in the general scheme of things .. love or money … you would get two different answers. I think it is because Claudia read all these hugely dramatic novels set in Russia and godawful windswept parts of England. Whereas I was fascinated by the failure of the American dream. Plus, she is Italian and they think nothing of snogging for hours in public. Which is just nasty, frankly. sofagirl.

      March 18, 2013
  2. #1 is definitely a keeper. I don’t think I’ve ever heard a man say, “Honesty is the best policy.” I’ve always liked, “Actions speak louder than words.”

    March 14, 2013
  3. char19lie

    Sofagirl – As someone who has known you for a very long time, I can vouch for the fact you adhere to all of those 10 statements, whilst some of us merely try……

    March 14, 2013
    • Awww Mizz C .. that is a huge compliment. But you do pretty darn well.

      March 18, 2013
  4. silvia

    Recently I’ve been thinking a lot about n. 3 and maybe because I had undergone certain facts in my life these days I think that I could rank kindness as n. 1 in my list. It’s a TRUE balm against all odds.

    March 14, 2013
  5. I am so with you on this and love that you opened with it: “Money, time and sleep can solve many things”. The rest naturally just fall into place.

    March 14, 2013

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